tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3428462155496045213.post685370099285094120..comments2023-03-26T05:12:41.332-04:00Comments on Everyday Highs and Lows: PraiseSharihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12372460591516521734noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3428462155496045213.post-54122375851146653872012-01-31T21:46:09.623-05:002012-01-31T21:46:09.623-05:00Jeri sent me an email and said I could post her th...Jeri sent me an email and said I could post her thoughts. Thanks Jeri! Great advice for us all. <br />okay, so I have read article after article where there is no such thing as too much praise...but there is the wrong kind of praise. Such as, if your child draws a picture, you really don't have to act like every single drawing is a masterpiece, what's more important for their confidence is to nitpick your praise. example: "Wow, you put a lot of detail in your picture of a plane, you even included landing gear!" or "I ttook you a long time to draw that, you worked really on it and it shows! It's fantastic!" or for a sports game; "I'm so proud of you! You have practiced every day and that shows a lot of dedication." Obviously you need to make it age appropriate, but I try to point out when my children try really hard, or when my 3 year old shows a lot of patience with her little sisters ("I know it's frustrating, but you're being so patient while mommy is busy with your sisters!") rather than just saying, "Hey! You drew a picture, yaaay you!" Since I've started this, I've noticed my daughter putting more thought, effort and concentration into her artwork, her block houses and such She also seems to be more confident in the things she does, probably because she knows that if she actually tries hard, it's a job well done. <br /><br />You are absolutely right, thre isn't going to be someone following them around every day praising them like the sun shine's out of their...well...you know! They will have to earn that pat on the back. That's not to say you should never praise your child except when they behave as an adult, but picking what part of something to praise makes it more personal I think, makes them more proud. I probably still praise my children as much as I did before...just in a different way, and that has made all the difference in my daughter. She understand that I'm noticing the effort, the little things, the umph she put into it.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12372460591516521734noreply@blogger.com